When I first began seeking heightened self-awareness, I believed I had to bring all my unconscious tendencies into my conscious mind – and keep them there. I saw the unconscious as a dumping ground for things we didn’t have time to face or process; I believed that the goal was to empty it. Eventually, I realized this is not only impossible, it’s actually counterproductive. Continue reading
Sometimes we find ourselves in the midst of a disagreement that quickly degrades into an argument, or even a fight. How does this happen? Why is it that we so often find ourselves in these situations where we feel like our words are falling on deaf ears, where all we say seems to worsen the situation? Continue reading
Today, I had an interesting interaction with a stranger. He told me about something called “multiple intelligences”, and directed me to a particular assessment thereof. Continue reading
I’m learning about how fluid and powerful perceptions are. They shape our experiences and profoundly affect our emotional states. We never know anything for certain, as even things we witness firsthand can have multiple explanations or interpretations. Our understanding of our existence and the events within it is much more in our control than we generally realize – or want to admit. Continue reading
It seems to me that there’s a fine line between routine and addiction. I’ve been trying to quit smoking recently, and I’ve noticed that half of the struggle for me is in the routine I’ve established. Continue reading
I have always considered myself an honest person. Recently, I’ve had to examine this belief more closely. Continue reading
One day, not too long ago, I was in a crummy mood. A friend of mine said to me, “Did you know that a hug that lasts for at least 20 seconds releases oxytocin?” I admitted I’d never heard that, and that I was skeptical that it would feel any more comforting than a normal hug. So she demonstrated.
As my romantic attachment patterns dissipate like the last wisps of a tornado, I begin to notice the gales of other types of attachment. The most noticeable one now is in relation to friendships.
Attachment patterns have been researched extensively in recent years. I feel that there are some useful grains of truth in these studies, as well as the associated theories. I am slowly developing my own concept of attachment patterns, but in this post I seek to outline some of my foundations.