Communication in Conflict

Sometimes we find ourselves in the midst of a disagreement that quickly degrades into an argument, or even a fight. How does this happen? Why is it that we so often find ourselves in these situations where we feel like our words are falling on deaf ears, where all we say seems to worsen the situation? Continue reading

Attachment Diaries: Chapter 10

For a short while, I noticed myself looking at people I haven’t met yet with curiosity and interest. On some level, I think I’ve gotten the strange sense that I’m about to meet a new spiritual friend, and this has made me anxious to find that person. But then the possibility of it being someone with whom I could become romantically involved crossed my mind, and I began to resist.

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The Subjective Nature of Good and Bad

It was about ten years ago when I first realized that the words ‘good’, ‘bad’, ‘evil’, and other such terms that evaluate quality were extremely subjective. It struck me unexpectedly, like something beyond myself poked the idea into my brain. I railed against it at first, then later it started to sink in.

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The Responsibility of Awareness

Imagine a world where everyone walks around with their eyes closed. Infants use their eyes, and as they grow older, they begin to ask questions about what they see; unfortunately, as the adults all have their eyes closed, they are unable to answer their children’s inquiries. Some simply respond with things like “I don’t understand your question,” others make up answers based on what they do know, and some accuse the children of hallucinating or making things up (with varying degrees of amusement, condescension, and reprimand).

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Attachment Diaries: Chapter 4

The attachments are spreading and dissolving. They are still very intense when they arise, but now they are reduced to aspects of experience — the smell of cologne, for example. Very interesting. I can’t help but wonder if this carries on perpetually, with the nature of the object diminishing in significance while the degree of attachment either maintains or increases… Or if it’s rather like the energy of a dying star, where it is the most intense just before it extinguishes itself. I like that analogy because star death creates the base components for all other beings, myself included. This gives me hope that something more intricate and complex may be born of the death of this long-living, intense energy.

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