Shaping the Future

The future is this nebulous haze of possibilities. We always have ideas of what it could be like, whether appealing or frightening. Often, we can see both types of futures for ourselves; this seems to happen most when we have little control over certain situations in the present. Continue reading

Attachment Diaries: Chapter 1

Missing my previous partners usually leads to me resenting that they don’t seem to miss me as much, if at all. Then some part of me wants to be spiteful and cut them from my life entirely, while other parts of me want to try to pull them closer — or keep just enough distance to ascertain whether they ever miss me at all. I don’t think any of these choices are healthy, because they all still focus externally, and involve trying to exert control! That’s antithetical to my goal. Letting go means surrendering control. Continue reading