This year is the year of the Fire Monkey in Chinese astrology. It is a year of intensity and sudden change – in short, chaos. Many of us have had a very tough year so far, whether it be from health problems, losing family members or friends, or just a seemingly constant onslaught of conflicts. These problems are to a degree or magnitude we haven’t experienced before, which leaves us feeling overwhelmed and run-down. Continue reading
I’ve spent quite some time now struggling with how to let go of circumstances beyond my control. One thing has helped me to focus more on the present and obsess a little less about what might be in my future. Continue reading
As my romantic attachment patterns dissipate like the last wisps of a tornado, I begin to notice the gales of other types of attachment. The most noticeable one now is in relation to friendships.
Attachment patterns have been researched extensively in recent years. I feel that there are some useful grains of truth in these studies, as well as the associated theories. I am slowly developing my own concept of attachment patterns, but in this post I seek to outline some of my foundations.
It was about ten years ago when I first realized that the words ‘good’, ‘bad’, ‘evil’, and other such terms that evaluate quality were extremely subjective. It struck me unexpectedly, like something beyond myself poked the idea into my brain. I railed against it at first, then later it started to sink in.
Imagine a world where everyone walks around with their eyes closed. Infants use their eyes, and as they grow older, they begin to ask questions about what they see; unfortunately, as the adults all have their eyes closed, they are unable to answer their children’s inquiries. Some simply respond with things like “I don’t understand your question,” others make up answers based on what they do know, and some accuse the children of hallucinating or making things up (with varying degrees of amusement, condescension, and reprimand).