Attachment Diaries: Chapter 10

For a short while, I noticed myself looking at people I haven’t met yet with curiosity and interest. On some level, I think I’ve gotten the strange sense that I’m about to meet a new spiritual friend, and this has made me anxious to find that person. But then the possibility of it being someone with whom I could become romantically involved crossed my mind, and I began to resist.

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Attachment Diaries 8

About a week ago, some good friends of mine spontaneously dropped by for a visit. While they were here, I was overcome with anxiety, which they noticed and encouraged me to open up to them about. They made helpful observations and gave me encouragement, which I took to heart. Talking to them opened a door and shed light on my underlying issues of self-concept.

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“Try not to confuse attachment with love. Attachment is about fear and dependency, and has more to do with love of self than love of another. Love without attachment is the purest love because it isn’t about what others can give you because you’re empty. It is about what you can give others because you’re already full.”

-Yasmin Mogahed

Attachment Diaries: Chapter 4

The attachments are spreading and dissolving. They are still very intense when they arise, but now they are reduced to aspects of experience — the smell of cologne, for example. Very interesting. I can’t help but wonder if this carries on perpetually, with the nature of the object diminishing in significance while the degree of attachment either maintains or increases… Or if it’s rather like the energy of a dying star, where it is the most intense just before it extinguishes itself. I like that analogy because star death creates the base components for all other beings, myself included. This gives me hope that something more intricate and complex may be born of the death of this long-living, intense energy.

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