In the last few weeks, I’ve oscillated between intense pessimism and optimism. I’ve dealt with these cycles for much of my life, and I have learned the advantages of both over time. Ultimately, I think the goal is to find a state between the two for the most part, but when we are faced with unknowns, it’s natural to be drawn away from center. Continue reading
Having lived in cities all my life, I’ve normalized the fact that strangers don’t really acknowledge one another often. We seem to go out of our way to avoid eye contact, and even when we meet eyes with a stranger accidentally, we usually look away quickly. Continue reading
The future is this nebulous haze of possibilities. We always have ideas of what it could be like, whether appealing or frightening. Often, we can see both types of futures for ourselves; this seems to happen most when we have little control over certain situations in the present. Continue reading
I’ve always struggled with waiting. I’m not a patient person by nature. It took me ages to learn how to constructively pass time waiting for something major I wanted to happen, like moving to a new apartment or going on a vacation. Initially I would “kill time”, distracting myself from my longing. With practice, I got better at making use of my time – doing preparatory tasks, or getting things done that I’d been putting off. Continue reading
Sometimes, we are put in a position where we have to make very hard choices. These often involve situations where whatever we choose, someone gets hurt. Continue reading
We’ve all had times when demands on us are heavy, often from multiple directions. Many of us default to accommodating as many demands as possible, and in the process, we forget one very important factor: self-care. Continue reading
Boundary-setting is an invaluable tool that helps us avoid unnecessary suffering and conflict. I have encountered a few subtleties that seem to make the difference between it going well or not.