The 20-Second Hug

One day, not too long ago, I was in a crummy mood. A friend of mine said to me, “Did you know that a hug that lasts for at least 20 seconds releases oxytocin?” I admitted I’d never heard that, and that I was skeptical that it would feel any more comforting than a normal hug. So she demonstrated.
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Attachment Diaries: Chapter 10

For a short while, I noticed myself looking at people I haven’t met yet with curiosity and interest. On some level, I think I’ve gotten the strange sense that I’m about to meet a new spiritual friend, and this has made me anxious to find that person. But then the possibility of it being someone with whom I could become romantically involved crossed my mind, and I began to resist.

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The Subjective Nature of Good and Bad

It was about ten years ago when I first realized that the words ‘good’, ‘bad’, ‘evil’, and other such terms that evaluate quality were extremely subjective. It struck me unexpectedly, like something beyond myself poked the idea into my brain. I railed against it at first, then later it started to sink in.

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